What do you do if you're naturally 'weird' anyway?

Your personality is whatever you want it to be and are comfortable with, if you are not comfortable about being left out socially, you don't have to sit back and let yourself be. When people say "be yourself" what they really mean is "be comfortable", everybody acts differently with differnt people and change over time, there isn't one natural way of being, you don't have to appear "weird" if you don't want to. And nobody really likes small talk, it's not just you, it's boring and awkward but it's an essential part of getting to know strangers, as you can't dive into personal things with people you don't know or they may get offended and get the wrong impression of you. Everybody has quirks and things about them other people would find weird, the trick is not revealing them except with people you know would understand and find it interesting, then people will be more drawn to you